Category Archive for: ‘Relationships’
How a Question Can Save a Relationship
Communication breakdowns in relationships often occur because the participants become so engrossed in their own points of view that they don’t listen or acknowledge the other person’s perspective. For example, an individual can tell the other person that they are unhappy with them and provide examples to support their case. They might avidly await the other person’s acknowledgement and understanding …
Read MoreCouples Counselling – Can it help you?
Couples counselling offers an opportunity for a couple to work through problems that seem insurmountable. A couple that are constantly in conflict, with one or more feeling misunderstood or communication has broken down completely, often seek out counselling. How can couples counselling help and what can you expect? A psychologist or skilled couples counsellor plays an important role in helping …
Read MoreCommunication Solutions in One Place
As a psychologist, I have seen a pattern in the type of challenges people face. People see a psychologist for a number of reasons but the underlying challenges have to do with relationships. They link to a person’s relationship with themselves and/or with other people. If someone suffers from depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, compulsions or other behavioural issues, they all …
Read MoreRescue dog teaches psychologist lessons in love
As a psychologist, I believe that forgiveness and learning to truly love ourselves, is the key to easing psychological and societal dis-ease.. Teaching people that the solution to their problems is not ‘out there’ is the first step to freedom. Dogs offer us one of the biggest Lessons in Love. How we might commence this journey? Loving and accepting love …
Read MoreWhat can you do when Trust is Broken?
Trust is an essential aspect of all good relationships. Underpinning all trust is the implicit value that a someone has the best intentions for us. People can make mistakes and let us down because of circumstances or personal challenges and this can still hurt us but when someone deliberately sets out to deceive us, it is particularly painful. Knowing that …
Read MoreCommunication Breakdowns in Close Relationships
Why is it so difficult to talk to your partner? Why can you talk to your friends easily and yet conflict and resentment arise with the person you’re involved with? What’s going on and how can you change this before it’s too late? All relationships get into a pattern of relating in a certain way. Sometimes this serves everyone well …
Read MoreBreaking Up A New Relationship After Communication Breaks Down
New relationships begin with so much promise that, in the early days, it?s hard to imagine that a few weeks or months down the line, there will be such misunderstanding that the relationship looks as if it?s destined for the rocks. However, this is the story of so many relationships that begin on a great footing but reach a road …
Read MoreAbuse in relationships
Abuse in relationships is often obvious to one or both of the partners or, ironically, one or both partners are unaware that their behaviour towards or received from the other, is abusive. Abuse can be defined as behaviour, attitude or intention towards another that: Disrespects the other person Violates their rights, power or ability to be treated respectfully. Diminishes them …
Read MoreA Healthy Relationship
A healthy relationship is what everyone says they want and yet few people seem to be able to sustain healthy relationships. Some people have particular challenges with different types of relationships – for example, they have healthy connections with friends or family but find intimate relationships difficult – or they find business relationships easy but exchanges with their teenage children …
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