Resistance to change
Seeking help from a psychologist is an important step in overcoming the challenges you face in transforming your life. However, many clients come to a few sessions and then find reasons why they can’t continue. These may be practical, financial, insufficient time, childcare arrangements or finding fault with the therapist. Whilst each of these reasons are of course possible, I invite my clients to discuss this with me because often the very fear or challenge that brought them to a therapist in the first place, is activated in the therapy session e.g. a client who cannot commit might make excuses or create very real circumstances to ensure they can’t continue or a client who is afraid of intimacy, wants to stop sessions for a multitude of reasons, all of which effectively mean they avoid conveying more of their story.
All this is part of the process of change. If you have found yourself in this situation, I encourage you to resist the urge to ?bail out’. With perseverance, you will be able to break the pattern once and for all and go on to live your life without the shackles of patterns that no longer serve you.