Commit to Creating the Life You Deserve

2010 is the beginning of a new decade and I encourage you to
think very carefully about you want this time to be about. Instead
of new year’s resolutions which pass so quickly, take time now
to set some goals for the coming year in the following areas:

1. Your health — without which most of the others don’t matter
2. Your wealth — which is important and often related to your work
3. Your personal self — your hobbies and interests
4. Your social self — your friends, family, and community

Make each of these four goals very specific.

Let’s say your health goal is socially oriented – maybe to have better relationships with people important to you without conflict. More measurably you could plan to initiate a family gathering once a month, call one friend per week and make a time to do something together and read a new book on communication skills within four weeks of the new year and find a psychologist with whom you and your partner could find new ways to have a great relationship.

You see how it works? Your job today is to set these four big goals. To set them and commit to them.The upcoming year can be the healthiest, wealthiest, and wisest year of your life. It starts today.

Why am I living like I am?

Modern living is challenging with pressure on us to ‘make the most of our lives’. Markers of achievement like our job, relationship, financial status and lifestyle are invariably used to see if we are on track.  However, whilst we can learn the ‘how’ and ‘what’ of how we want to live our lives, what about the ‘why?’

In choosing how to live like you do, ask yourself:

• Why am I doing what I do?
• Is this what I want or what someone else has chosen for me?
• Is this making me happy?
• What is the purpose behind everything I do?

In working with clients over the years, a time always comes in their lives when they ask ‘What is this all about?’ ‘Why am I living like I am?‘  These are bigger questions than ‘Because I have a mortgage to pay or children to feed’.  They relate to the ‘why?’ behind why you live like you can.  Don’t leave your life to chance – ‘live on purpose’. If you find the ‘why’ ,the ‘what’ and ‘how’ become easier anyway.

Stress and Burnout – Realities of our Choices

Stress and burnout often result when we simply take on too much, believing that somehow there is a formula which will enable us to do more and more.  I seldom find people who are looking to fill their time.   New opportunities arise and it seems that we must relinquish something in order to take on something new – or else suffer the emotional, psychological and physically unhealthy repercussions.

Just as the business owner must learn to delegate and leverage their resources of time, money, knowledge etc with those of others, where can we learn to collaborate so we can achieve a more fulfilled and balanced lifestyle – with room for the important things that make life worth living?  If not, what is all this stress and burnout there to tell us?