2010 is the beginning of a new decade and I encourage you to
think very carefully about you want this time to be about. Instead
of new year’s resolutions which pass so quickly, take time now
to set some goals for the coming year in the following areas:
- Your health — without which most of the others don’t matter
- Your wealth — which is important and often related to your work
- Your personal self — your hobbies and interests
- Your social self — your friends, family, and community
Make each of these four goals very specific.
Let’s say your health goal is socially oriented – maybe to have better relationships with people important to you without conflict. More measurably you could plan to initiate a family gathering once a month, call one friend per week and make a time to do something together and read a new book on communication skills within four weeks of the new year and find a psychologist with whom you and your partner could find new ways to have a great relationship.
You see how it works? Your job today is to set these four big goals. To set them and commit to them.The upcoming year can be the healthiest, wealthiest, and wisest year of your life. It starts today.
2010 is an opportunity for you to make some changes. It is a time to reflect on what you like about your life and what you don’t. Life is not something that just happens to us, or that some people get lucky whilst others don’t. The secret is that people make their luck – you just need the tools to create what you desire. This starts when you realise that you are 100% responsible for your life.
Difficult things that happen to you are NOT YOUR FAULT – but your response and what you do about them ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
Make 2010 different. Psychological counselling for individuals or couples is not just about removing the pain in your life – it is about helping you positively create the life you want.
Remember! There is a way to get what you want and it’s different from what you are doing now – and it works!
New Year Resolutions are made in an attempt to improve some aspect of your life. However, they are seldom kept because whilst you may have good intentions, unconscious counter-intentions sabotage your success.
This year, change how you make New Year resolutions. Become 100% responsible for everything that happens in your life. Have you ever noticed that when you have problems, challenges or difficulties YOU are always present?
This doesn’t mean you are to blame for everything – it means you have a part in co-creating everything in your life. Don’t despair at this – embrace it since if you create things, you can also un-create them and create something new. So however you want things to change in the New Year, start by becoming 100% responsible for your reactions to whatever comes your way. You may find that counselling or coaching is needed to get you started – if it is, then embrace this as an important investment in yourself.