Relationship Counselling can be enormously helpful to couples or between family members who struggle to resolve issues on their own. When emotions are high, opinions differ and the stakes are high, it becomes more difficult to address difficult issues. This can come as a surprise to people in long-term relationships; they wonder if indeed their relationship can mend if they are unable to work through this alone. The reality is that a skilled facilitator can assist you with relationship advice to look at both the ?content’ of the problem, but most importantly the ?process’.
The content of the problem is the issue you are facing. It might be an event, conversation, action or behaviour that has violated the rules (explicit and implicit) of the relationship. Most couples get caught in the trap of going over the issue repeatedly in order to seek understanding, apologies or assuaging the fear that things are ruined. The challenging fact for couples is that the real thing to be examined – especially if they want to stay together – is the process i.e. how they communicate, and the dynamics of the relationship. This is where a skilled facilitator in the form of a relationship counsellor can help. They will encourage you to talk to each other, examine how each of you feels when your partner says or acts in a certain way and encourage each of you to overcome your discomfort and say what needs to be said. It can be enormously valuable to couples – or other family members – to have this intervention. It avoids members walking out in frustration and repeating patterns that are detrimental to resolving differences.